Episode 22

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23rd Feb 2026

The One Key to Influencing Anyone (That Most Leaders Miss)

Who is the one person you need to get on your side right now?

There is always someone - an investor, a boss, a peer, or a difficult employee - who you need to make a decision in your favor.


Most leaders try to influence people using logic. They present facts, data, and ROI. And often, they fail.


Why? Because they don’t understand Leverage.


In this episode, I break down the single most important psychological tool for persuasion. "Leverage" isn't about manipulation; it is about understanding the deep-seated drives, fears, and aspirations that actually cause a human being to say "Yes."


In this episode, you will learn:

-The Definition of Leverage: Why "What's in it for me?" is deeper than just money or status (it’s often about safety, legacy, or belonging)

-Personality-Based Influence: How to adjust your leverage based on the 4 Leadership Types (Commanders want to win; Visionaries want to be cool; Collaborators want harmony) .

-The "Expense Report" Tactic: A real-world example of helping a team member understand why they need to do their admin on time

-The "Move Away" vs. "Move Towards" Driver: Why some people are motivated by looking smart, while others are motivated by not looking stupid (and why you must know the difference)


💪 The Challenge for This Week:


-Pick one person you have been struggling to influence.

-Stop pitching your agenda.

-Identify their Leverage: Ask yourself, "What are they afraid of losing? What do they deeply need to gain?" (Is it fairness? Respect? Safety?) .\

-Put it into action


Resources

-Questions on this? Ask me in the Leadership Mindset 2.0 community on LinkedIn or Facebook

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About the Podcast

Leadership Mindset 2.0
Transform From Tactical Doer to Strategic Leader: The Psychology of Scaling for Executives & Entrepreneurs
Leadership Mindset 2.0 is the definitive playbook for executives and entrepreneurs ready to break free from the "Doer Trap" and scale their business using psychology and strategy.

Host R. Michael Anderson has scaled multiple software companies to the Inc. 5000 list and was named Social Entrepreneur of the Year. Now, as a 2x Executive Coach of the Year, he uses that experience to help high-performers transform from Tactical Operators into Strategic Leaders.

In this podcast, Michael blends cutting-edge neuroscience, emotional intelligence (EQ), and battle-tested business strategy to help you overcome burnout, imposter syndrome, and the "Leadership Incompetence Trap" so you can lead with clarity and confidence.

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Topics include: The Psychology of Scaling, Burnout Prevention, Strategic Planning, Executive Coaching, and Emotional Intelligence.

About your host

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R. Michael Anderson

R. Michael Anderson, MBA, MA has a striking combination that creates truly impactful transformation in leaders – he has the real-life business success of founding, scaling and exiting three software companies, plus the educational background of a Masters Degree in Psychology.



This combination gives him the unique ability to connect to other leaders as a peer, then teaches evidence-based leadership skills that genuinely drive behaviour and performance.